The recent case of Mr Otto Fong, an RI teacher who declared himself a homosexual to the online world, ignited a heated debate. I find myself arguing against a crowd that is mostly supportive of homosexuality.
My starting arguments were:
1. If our society accepts homosexuality, we would not have had a commotion in the first place. Since it causes such a big stir, it means our society is not ready to accept homosexuality. Why force the majority to accept the quirks of the minority simply because the minority demands it?
2. If we say that homosexuality is right, are we also prepared to say that sex with animals is right? If rights are so almighty that we must not be denied anything that we desire, can we have nudity in public? Can we have drugs and guns?
The replies I got are these (bold and italics are their arguments, the rest are my counter replies):
1. Society changes with time. Examples being the abolishment of black slaves and women’s suffrage. It is time, they say, for change in attitudes towards homosexuality.
Society changes with time but at its own pace. We should not push society before society is ready but should adapt to society’s pace instead.
Abolishment of slavery came with bloodshed. Is it worth paying the price of blood for homosexuality? Women’s rights were first championed decades ago and is still work in progress. Do we expect society’s view of homosexuality to change over night?
The causes of the American civil war were more than slavery. Many countries abolished slavery without bloodshed.
Still, slavery was one of the main causes of the American civil war. The fact that many countries abolished slavery without blooshed didn’t prevent the American civil war and does not guarantee that future conflicts will be without blooshed.
2. Animal sex, pornography, nudity and drugs are extreme but not homosexuality. Homosexuality is more acceptable to society than say nudity.
If animal sex and so on are extreme but not homosexuality, then we’re practising double standards.
Homosexuality can be distinguished from the other categories by the harm that it inflicts. Nudity is harmful because it makes people behave like animals. Pornography is harmful only if seen by children. Some drugs are not harmful. Animal sex is animal abuse. Homosexuality on the other hand, causes no harm.
The fact that many people on the internet spoke up for Otto Fong shows that they support homosexuality more than nudity.
The French likes to sunbathe in the nude on the banks of the river Seine in front of children. Are the French animals? So nudity isn’t necessarily harmful and can be acceptable in other societies. But nudity’s acceptance by other societies doesn’t imply we should embrace it. The same can be said with homosexuality.
The fact that homosexuality caused so much commotion shows that our society is very intolerant of it, probably more so than nudity.
All drugs harm although to varying degrees. If drugs are openly distributed in Australia but not in Singapore, it goes to show that what is acceptable elsewhere may not necessarily be acceptable here.
If having sex with animals is animal abuse, then what about chaining an animal by the neck? What about keeping a fish in a tank?
3. Heterosexuals cannot say that homosexuality is offensive because it impies that homosexuals can say the reverse – that heterosexuality is offensive. Furthermore, heterosexuals cannot assume that they are right simply because they are in the majority because the govt implemented casinos despite disagreement from the majority of Singaporeans.
We are a democracy and should abide by the wishes of the majority without trampling upon the minority. It may be wrong for the govt to force its will down our throats but one wrong doesn’t justify another wrong so it doesn’t imply it is right for the homosexuals to force their will down the throats of non-homosexuals.
4. Public debate should always be encouraged.
Up to a point yes, but if proponents of homosexuality continue to press on with their issue even though society has clearly said no, then it shows that they can’t take no for an answer and are in fact the ones who are intolerant.
5. Otto Fong is fighting for his own rights just as Rosa Park did.
Yes but there is a fundamental difference. Rosa Park was denied the right to a bus seat whereas Mr Fong isn’t denied his right to homosexuality. In fact no one bothers with what he does in bed and no govt agency rounds up homosexuals and puts them in jail.
But homosexuality is outlawed.
But thus far, no one has been jailed for homosexuality.
If it is a law that is never used, it serves no purpose and ought to be abolished. Otherwise people might be encouraged to break it.
Gambling is against the law but that doesn’t stop people from gambling at home during Chinese New Year. So everyone’s breaking the law during Chinese New Year but nobody gets caught. Nobody bothers with the law yet the law is there.
The law acts as a deterrent. Gambling is not tolerated but no one will care if you do it as part of a festive custom behind closed doors. Similarly for homosexuality, the law is necessary as a deterrent because it is against general public sentiments. But nobody will stop you doing what you do behind closed doors.
So we shouldn’t abolish the law simply because no one has been caught yet. It is because of the law that no one dares to try in the first place.
6. Mr Fong is trying to teach tolerance and acceptance and tolerance has economic value because globalisation necessitates that we do business with gays.
We don’t force acceptance down people’s throats. Neither do we demand society’s acceptance of our quirks.
To what extent must non-homosexuals go to demonstrate their tolerance? Should they abandon thier own beliefs and subscribe to those of homosexuals?
The moment we put an economic value to our beliefs, we degrade them into something totally unworthy. Should we endorse drugs, casinos and prostitution simply because they are lucrative?
The need to do business with gays doesn’t mean we need to be like them. Just like we need not become muslims to do business with muslims.
Everything can be rationalised from an economic perspective. The economic burden of drugs is greater than the money that drugs bring whereas prostitution is legal.
If Buddhism explains karma like a bank account then morality can also be explained in terms of money.
If a police officer tells me I shouldn’t take drugs because our country would suffer economically, I would give him one tight slap. We stop drugs because we want to save lives not to enrich the economy but simply because it is the morally right thing to do.
Prostitution is legal not because of the money it brings but because of a social need that it satisfies. Because it isn’t about money, prositution is neither promoted nor advertised.
You can use money to explain concepts. but you can’t use it to judge matters of principle and morality. Because if you do, it means your soul can be bought with money.
7. Get MM Lee to endorse homosexuality.
MM Lee is the wrong person to endorse homosexuality because he isn’t concerned with homosexuality per say but with the economic value of homosexuals.
One should fight for one’s own beliefs with one’s own abilities rather than hide behind a powerful figure. If one only fights when supported by a strong figure, does it mean one won’t fight when there is no strong backing?
8. Chinese are behind in accepting homosexuality. Malays and peranakans have no problems.
Being ‘behind’ isn’t necessarily wrong. Animal sex, drugs, carrying of arms … these so-called ‘infront’ practices in the west are nothing great but rubbish in fact to our society.
9. Supporters of homosexualism demand an explanation of why society thinks homosexualism is immoral and wrong. If it can’t, it means society is being irrational and if moral standards are arbitrary, then anything can be immoral and wrong and you end up with situations like the Nazis exterminating the jews (and homosexuals).
The stance has always been that our society cannot accept homosexualism (yet). Whether they feel it is immoral or are simply uncomfortable about it or don’t like it, the fact remains they can’t accept it.
It’s like I don’t like coffee and I cannot explain why, but you insist that I explain why I don’t like coffee and if I can’t, you say I’m being irrational. What kind of rational demand is that?
Furthermore, having been told explicitly that I don’t like coffee, you still insist in shoving it into my face. Are you not being unreasonable? Despite the fact that I don’t like coffee, I don’t prevent you from drinking it. Yet, you insist on shoving coffee into my face.
Everyone has different moral standards. Some people can be bought with money, some cannot. But the society as a whole has a general standard that most conform to. You and I may be extremes but we cannot expect everyone else to be like us.
Yes, Nazis exterminated homosexuals, but no Singaporean has ever lifted a finger on homosexuals. So in this respect, Singapore is far from Nazi. On the other hand, there are similarities between the Nazis and the proponents of homosexuality. The Nazis is a small group that ended up forcing their will upon an entire nation. Similarly, the homosexuals is also a small group clamouring to force their lifestyle upon the rest of the nation.
So the moral thing for the homosexuals is to not force those who cannot accept their lifestyle to accept their lifestyle.
10. People need to come out to express their views on such matters as homosexuality. To be prevented from doing so is to deny them their rights.
Let’s say I have a peculiar fetish, do I need to tell the world before I can truly enjoy my fetish? So to begin with, what need is there in telling the world matters that are so private?
Furthermore, if we are really convicted of something, then whatever the world thinks or says will not change that conviction. We do not need approval to do what we want to do. We do not need approval to feel good about who we are. Because if we do, then perhaps we are not as convicted as we claim to be.